Ok here’s the deal: wedding planning is stressful. Trust me I know; but it is also totally worth it. During my planning process, I lived by the quote “you do you, boo.” P.S. This is the last time I’m going to say that quote.
I feel like the wedding industry is evolving in a way that is supposed to meet society’s crazy expectations. What do I mean? Well, as brides, we have this feeling that if we don’t have some specific traditional component, like a ring bearer and/or flower girl, our guests are going to think we went mad. So I am here to say “You do you!” Ok now I’m done saying that.
Your wedding is about celebrating the love that you and your partner share, all while being surrounded by those who mean the most to you in your life. So why stress over the crazy stereotypes that we think we absolutely have to have to be able to have a wedding?
Here are a few tips that come to my mind as someone who just got married:
First, the budget. Whether you write it on a sticky note and put it on your bathroom mirror to wake up to every morning, or you doodle a little something to decorate your wedding planning binder, your budget doesn’t define you. Although it is dire that you start your planning with a set budget, it is ok to have one that is small. You can pull off an amazing wedding for $5,000, trust me I have seen it done and LOVED it as a guest. Also remember that your guests aren’t going to be thinking about how much your wedding cost you, because guess what? They are there for you and to celebrate this grand adventure that your and your partner are embarking on!
Next, the catering. This is the best time to be unique! You can do anything you want because it is your day! If you want to have a sit down plated dinner, go for it! I chose to have a burrito bar for a few reasons. One, it was what I could afford. Two, I was able to consider dietary restrictions without having to talk to my guests as they could choose what they were eating (it was a buffet). And last but not least, boy did I think it was awesome! You know what else I think is awesome? A freaking pizza bar! I mean have you seen those things; how cool are they? I mean just look at the artistic, delicious, design of this peperoni pizza!
Lastly: the outfits. If you want everyone to match, no worries, it is your wedding (just make sure what you chose is in everyone’s budget). But, there is no binding law that says everyone has to have the same dress or suit. Take my wedding for example. I wanted everyone in my party to feel bomb in what they were wearing. I told each of them a general idea of what we wanted and gave them the responsibility to find their outfit that was affordable for them. Of course the groomsmen didn’t like being mismatched so they worked together to find the awesome suits they wore; but my ladies all found a dress they loved, and my wedding party looked like this. Down right amazing to me!
Think of this for your parents and grandparents as well. Make sure that everyone is comfortable in what they are wearing, because all of you will be on your feet allllll night; you can trust me on that!
Well these are just a few things that can make your wedding unique to you. Just remember that your wedding is about reflecting on the adventures that you and your partner have had in the past and will have in the future. If you don’t want to have an extravagant wedding, that’s ok (I was one of those people)! If you do want one, then by all means go for it! But in the end don’t feel that you have to meet some stranger’s expectations that were created decades ago. Be unique because in this community we are AUTHENTIC. ADVENTURE. LIVING.